Friday, October 16, 2020

Sorrow, Presence, & The Desire To Be Heard And Understood (Mary's Sixth Sorrow)

While Scripture doesn't detail the transition from Jesus' death to his burial, centuries of tradition contemplate the sorrow of Mary receiving her son's body from the cross.
I wonder if John and Mary Magdalene considered pulling Jesus' mother away until after his body was wrapped for burial; wouldn't an up-close experience with her son's tortured body overwhelm Mary? Oftentimes, if a victim's body is badly damaged, a medical examiner will protect family members with only discrete opportunities to view or touch part of the body. 
And yet, Mary holds her precious son's body, grieving at the brutality of his death, while also aware that this story isn't over. After 33 years of presence, listening with her heart, pondering one strange occurrence after another in the life of her son, Mary understands, even in her sorrow, that something bigger is happening here. 
This is the sixth post in a series on how Mary's Seven Sorrows reflect our seven basic human desires. Consider the Sixth Sorrow, Mary Receives Christ's Body from the Cross, in light of our basic human desire to be heard and understood
At Jesus' death, his followers were confused and despondent. Many had fled. Perhaps they were thinking, "What was it all for? What a waste." 
But Mary recalled Jesus' warnings about what was to come. She remembered Simeon's prophecy that her heart would be pierced. She knew Jesus had allowed himself to be scourged, mocked, crucified, killed. And she must have connected, as her Magnificat declares in Luke 1, that all of this was somehow part of God's promise to Abraham nearly 2,000 years earlier.
Even as chaos and sadness descend on the scene, Mary's intentional presence throughout Jesus' life helped her hear and understand her Son. 
Was there someone in your childhood who really listened and understood? So often, when one of my kids begins to talk, I hold up a finger of pause: "Not now… I'm busy… I'm on the phone… I'm tired… I just talked with you five minutes ago… Can you just give me a moment?" What about as an adult? Can you recall a time when someone really listened intently as you shared?
When we're repeatedly ignored or misheard, we might begin to think our concerns and ideas don't matter. We might stop trying to communicate altogether—why bother if no one's listening? We might start shouting our thoughts in an attempt to make ourselves heard. We might talk quickly without stopping, afraid to lose control of an opportunity to speak. When children feel unheard, they often resort to tantrums, yelling, flailing, and acting out. 
How do I respond when I feel unheard? Talk louder? Talk more? Talk angrily? Do I stop trying to talk altogether? 
How can I more intentionally be present to hear and understand others? As a parent, how can I help my child feel heard and understood? 
 
Pieta
Michelangelo / CC BY-SA (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/)

Next week, we'll reflect on Mary's Seventh Sorrow, Placing Our Lord in the Tomb, in light of our basic human desire to be blessed.
You can read the first post in this series (Sorrow, Prophecy, & The Desire To Be Affirmed) here.
You can read the second post in this series (Sorrow, Escape, & The Desire To Be Safe) here
You can read the third post in this series (Sorrow, Absence, & The Desire To Be Chosen) here.
You can read the fourth post in this series (Sorrow, Suffering, & The Desire To Be Touched) here.
You can read the fifth post in this series (Sorrow, Loss, & The Desire To Be Included) here.
For more information on the seven basic human desires, check out: Seven Desires: Looking Past What Separates Us to Learn What Connects Us by Mark & Debra Laaser
*Also published October 2020 at Sacred Heart Blog.

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